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Power Ranger David Yost: I'm Gay |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Thursday, 26 August 2010 14:14 |
In an interview with The Advocate running online next week, David Yost, who from 1993 to 1996 starred as the blue Power Ranger in more than 200 episodes of the children’s television phenomenon,talks about the taunting and teasing he endured on the set of the show, and the years of ups and downs that have finally made him able to say the words, “I’m gay.”
“A week before I left the TV show I made a commitment to myself saying, “If I get called faggot one more time, I’m walking because I can’t handle it any more,” Yost says. Within a week it happened, and it happened from a higher-level person on the show.”
Yost says he spent the next few years doing everything he could to “pray the gay away.”
“There were times when I would call prayer hotlines like Joyce Meyers prayer hotline or Pat Robinson’s 700 Club prayer hotline and instead was condemned over the phone.”
Instead of helping, all the prayer ultimately led to a mental breakdown and a five week stay in the hospital — and because his parents didn’t know he was gay at this point, they assumed it was the pressure of having not worked in a while.
Yost says he’s coming out now because he’s “tired of hearing stories about teenagers still taking their lives and committing suicide because of who they are and not understanding that there are resources for them to get help.”
Check back to Advocate.com next week for our full interview with David Yost.
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Ken Mehlman, Bush Campaign Manager, Comes Out as Gay |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Wednesday, 25 August 2010 18:10 |
Former Republican National Committee chairman and Bush-Cheney campaign manager Ken Mehlman has announced publicly that he is gay, CBS News chief political consultant and politics editor for The Atlantic Marc Ambinder reports.
"It's taken me 43 years to get comfortable with this part of my life," Mehlman said. "Everybody has their own path to travel, their own journey, and for me, over the past few months, I've told my family, friends, former colleagues, and current colleagues, and they've been wonderful and supportive. The process has been something that's made me a happier and better person. It's something I wish I had done years ago, but I didn't."
Mehlman was RNC chairman from 2005 to 2007 after serving as Bush-Cheney campaign manager in 2004. He also served as White House political director during President Bush's first term.
Mehlman told Ambinder that he had recently come to the conclusion that he is gay and was looking to become an advocate for gay marriage. He went public in part because he expected to be asked about his sexuality when it became known he was participating in a fundraiser next month for the American Foundation for Equal Rights (AFER), which is supporting a legal challenge to California's Proposition 8 initiative banning gay marriage.
Mehlman said President Bush "is no homophobe" but acknowledged that the Bush administration used antigay initiatives for political gain. In private conversations with senior Republicans, he said, he fought back against attempts to demonize same-sex marriage.
Activist Mike Rogers, as Ambinder notes, has waged a years-long campaign to force Mehlman out of the closet, including confronting him with questions about his sexuality on video. (Mehlman regularly denied that he was gay.) Rogers responded to the news that Mehlman was coming out by awarding him a "Roy Cohn Award" for "managing the most anti-gay presidential campaigns in history."
"Ken Mehlman is horridly homophobic and no matter how orchestrated his coming out is, our community should hold him accountable for his past," Rogers wrote.
Mehlman told Ambinder he understands that some people in the gay community will be upset that he did not come out until he was out of government.
"I can't change the fact that I wasn't in this place personally when I was in politics, and I genuinely regret that. It was very hard, personally," he said. He acknowledged that if he had come to terms with his sexual orientation earlier, "I could have worked against [the Federal Marriage Amendment]" and "reached out to the gay community in the way I reached out to African Americans."
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Check out Ambinder's full report here.
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Presbyterians try lesbian minister for gay weddings |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Tuesday, 24 August 2010 14:11 |
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Los Angeles Times, Posted: 8/24/2010, 1:17 PM
A lesbian minister, who officiated at more than a dozen same-sex weddings during the brief window gay marriage was legal in California, goes to trial Thursday before a Presbyterian court, charged with violating her denomination's constitution. The case of Rev. Jane Adams Spahr has gained national attention because "what is being tested is the definition of marriage" in the Presbyterian faith, said the Rev. Carmen Fowler, president of the Presbyterian Lay Committee, a conservative organization that opposes same-sex marriage. Spahr's trial, which will be held in Napa, begins less than three weeks after a federal court judge ruled that California's ban on same-sex marriage is unconstitutional. And it underscores the awkward position in which changing civil law places many clergy members. Although the Presbyterian constitution does not explicitly prohibit same-sex marriage, it defines marriage as "a civil contract between a woman and a man." But same-sex marriage is legal in five states and the District of Columbia and is working its way through the courts in California. "More and more ministers are going to be put in a position where their church members are going to come to them asking for a wedding, and they're going to have to say yes," said the Rev. Beverly Brewster, Spahr's defense attorney. "Not to do so would violate many constitutional provisions about non-discrimination in pastoral care."
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California Legislature Officially Endorses Repeal of Federal Defense of Marriage Act |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Monday, 23 August 2010 17:01 |

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE August 23, 2010 7:43 PM
CONTACT: Equality California (EQCA) Vaishalee Raja, Equality California 916-284-9187
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California Legislature Officially Endorses Repeal of Federal Defense of Marriage Act
Equality California-sponsored resolution puts State of California on record supporting repeal of so-called “Defense of Marriage Act”
SACRAMENTO, Calif. - August 23 - Today, the California State Senate approved a joint resolution, AJR 19, calling on the U.S. Congress and President Obama to immediately repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which explicitly forbids the federal government or any federal agency from recognizing state-sanctioned marriages between same-sex couples. Introduced by Assemblymember Julia Brownley (D - Santa Monica) and sponsored by Equality California, the joint resolution was passed by a bipartisan vote of 22-12. "The Defense of Marriage Act prevents the federal government from recognizing the relationships of loving same-sex couples, even when the states where they live recognize their relationships," said Equality California Executive Director Geoff Kors. "We're proud of the California legislature for making the state's opposition to DOMA official state policy. Now we must overturn this discriminatory federal law and pave the way for the marriages of same-sex couples to be recognized at the federal level."
Under DOMA, which passed in 1996, married same-sex couples are refused the same federal rights and responsibilities as their heterosexual counterparts, resulting in inequitable and unfair implementation of federal laws governing a range of issues such as housing, immigration, tax and inheritance. A repeal of DOMA would result in the federal government recognizing legal marriages of same-sex couples, just as it currently recognizes legal marriages of heterosexual couples.
"President Obama has called this law abhorrent in the way it denies more than 1,000 federal rights to same-sex couples," Assemblymember Brownley said. "Congress must act now to overturn DOMA, which is rooted in irrational and unfounded prejudice. Married same-sex couples deserve equal access to these benefits."
Currently, there are eleven nations that recognize marriages between same-sex couples, including Argentina, Belgium, Canada, Iceland, Mexico, the Netherlands, Norway, Portugal, South Africa, Spain and Sweden. Five states in the U.S. grant same-sex couples the right to marry, including Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Vermont, as well as Washington, D.C.
For more information about Equality California-sponsored legislation, please visitwww.eqca.org/legislation.
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Target feels backlash from shareholders |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Monday, 23 August 2010 00:55 |
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By Jennifer Martinez and Tom Hamburger, Tribune Washington Bureau
August 19, 2010|6:17 p.m.
Institutions with stakes in the retail giant are demanding that the company revamp its donation process after a $150,000 contribution backed an anti-gay-rights candidate.
After weeks of public protest over its financial support of an organization that backed aGOP gubernatorial candidate opposed to gay rights, Target Corp. now faces a new form of pressure: demands from institutional shareholders that it revamp its donation process to avoid the chance of additional backfires.
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HBO's 'True Blood' turning 'too gay' for mainstream? |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Sunday, 22 August 2010 21:06 |
Zap2It, Posted: 8/22/2010, 1:15 PM
Last week, Philadelphia Eagles player, Todd Herremans, had gotten in some trouble with fans and team management after he tweeted his annoyance at "True Blood's" "barrage of homosexuality." We could have never predicted that Rolling Stone would unveil a racy new cover featuring Alexander Skarsgard, Anna Paquin and Stephen Moyer entwined with each other and nude soon after. And in the article, creator Alan Ball said that sexually anything goes with his vampires. Also, "90210's" Michael Steger appears in Sunday's (August 22) episode to add a new romantic interest for Denis O'Hare's vampire king character. At any rate, after Herremans apologized, we asked our readers if it's possible to be a fan of the show and anti-gay. You responded in droves. Here are some of the comments that caught our eye:
No, you can't be a Truebie and anti-gay Michael: "No I do not believe it is possible to be both homophobic and a fan of the show... Going back to Todd Herremans comment on twitter, it just goes to show that watching 'True Blood' does take an open mind, homophobes will get very uncomfortable because of there ignorance and intolerance."
Yes, you can be a Truebie and anti-gay Luee: "I like the show the way it is and personally Alan has to just make sure he can give us another great finale and I am sure any folks who are uncomfortable about the gay characters will overlook the "discomfort." Does this mean I am pro-gay-marriage? No, I am not. But does this make me 'homophobic' or bigoted? No I am not. Am I a big fan of TB? One of the biggest."
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Gay Relationships: Dating & Ambivalence |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Sunday, 22 August 2010 20:51 |
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How do you know when you’ve met the “right one?”Our romantic culture promotes the idea that each of us has a Mr. or Ms. Right out there – the one perfect match who will light our fire and laugh at our jokes and generally be our just right soulmate. In old musical comedies, an upbeat musical score and starry- eyed looks might accompany the appearance of Mr. Right from the object of his affection.
For most of us, reality looks rather different. We find someone we like – a lot, in fact – but if we hang around long enough, we discover that he isn’t perfect. He has a bad habit or two; he snores or belches or sings off key. He’s special, sure, but he’s not perfect. We find ourselves feeling ambivalent. There are few dreamy songs celebrating romantic ambivalence.
We face a dilemma: how special is “special enough?”How do we decide whether we are settling for a relationship we don’t really want (on the one hand) or setting such a perfectionist standard that we are likely to be forever alone (on the other)?
While romantic mythology might make us think that we’ll surely know when the right one comes along, life is full of choices we must make with incomplete information. Sure, someone “even better” might come along…. eventually. But holding out for perfection in a mate is a great strategy for living life alone.
Attraction is a combination of similarities and differences between the individuals involved. The precise recipe is probably unique to each of us. If there isn’t sufficient attraction to keep us engaged, the fires will go out eventually, no matter how much we might hope that we had met our match.
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If you find yourself in this situation, try to look at whether you are compromising on qualities that seem like essential elements for you. Do you share compatible life goals, for instance? What about values? If one of you lives to party until dawn and the other hasn’t even been to a party since the first Bush administration, the two of you are either looking at significant compromises or a lifetime of arguments and disappointments.
What is most important to you? Are you getting your core needs met? If not, are the two of you able and willing to make changes so that you can get what you want?
If your tendency is to find fault with everyone you date, it is time to look at your expectations. Often we project onto others attributes that we fear we have within our own selves. We’ll never find someone if we play that game.
A degree of ambivalence is to be expected within most relationships. Acknowledge your feelings to yourself, but don’t get sidetracked by them. Getting lost in self-doubts can lead to sabotaging a relationship. It is possible to accept that a degree of ambivalence exists and still move forward with a commitment if you know your own mind and heart.
Should you share your feelings of uncertainty with your boyfriend? Be careful. Telling the truth is important, but so is being considerate of your partner’s feelings. It is one thing to acknowledge that neither of you is perfect, but quite another to muse aloud about the possibility of someone better coming along. If your speaking gives him the feeling you are about to leave the relationship, you may be being unfair to him and to yourself. Talking through your feelings with a friend or a counselor is preferable to hurting someone you care about.

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Friday Watercooler: Palin defends Dr. Laura’s racist words |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Sunday, 22 August 2010 20:42 |
By Ray Hunt, blogger, 365gay.com 08.20.2010 6:00pm EDT
• Did She Really Defend Racist Comments? Sarah Palin, no stranger to controversy, has taken to her Twitter account to defend Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s (who is neither a medical doctor or a psychologist – PHD Physiology) use of the N word. Dr. Laura used the N word 11 times in five minutes in response to a callers question about racism (listen to the audio at Media Matters). Dr. Laura recently announced she would not return to her radio show at the end of her contract due to the controversy of her comments. Palin decided to jump into the fray via Twitter. “Dr.Laura:don’t retreat…reload! (Steps aside bc her 1st Amend.rights ceased 2exist thx 2activists trying 2silence”isn’t American,not fair”) and later with “”Dr.Laura=even more powerful & effective w/out the shackles, so watch out Constitutional obstructionists. And b thankful 4 her voice, America!” I wonder if Palin listened to the segment before tweeting to the world her defense of racist language. Go ahead America worship this woman
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Should you be “out” at your kid’s school? |
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Written by Joe L. Sosa, Jr
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Sunday, 22 August 2010 20:38 |
By Rick Clemons, Goodkin 08.20.2010 10:00am EDT
School supplies, new clothes, and carpooling arrangements. It’s Fall and Back-to-School time! (Sighs of relief are ok!) All across the globe parents are facing the new school year, its joys and challenges. And as a gay or lesbian parent it can be overly challenging. Each step of your child’s academic ladder—pre-school, elementary school, middle school, high school—is a “coming out” process for you as well.
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